Jornal de abbadabba, 10 fev 24

Figured out a key coping strategy that is tying my stomach in knots. Argument with bf, he wants to talk Monday after he has a chance to process. This just triggers my conflict resolution history which comes down to this: if I bring up something bothering me the other person gets mad that I am upset and then punishes me in some way so that I either apologize for confronting them or else put up with abuse for holding to my boundaries. So now I am waiting for the other show to drop in the bf situation. Family and ex had that pattern and I am not out of it yet.
Been focusing on eating well and managing pain for sleep so I can keep myself together.

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Sounds very challenging. I sent a prayer for YOU! And a hug.  
10 fev 24 por membro: -MorticiaAddams
💙 so challenging to break old patterns 💙 I hear that. 
10 fev 24 por membro: unity1234
Aww! Sending up a prayer for you - for your pain and the bf situation. 
10 fev 24 por membro: BrendaIvy
I would rather have no BF than one who verbally attacks me just for setting a boundary. You deserve a better circle of people in your life. Boundaries are easier to set up with new friends and lovers. 
10 fev 24 por membro: JustBananas
If he won't listen to you about how you feel, then I say let him go. I had a bf like that years ago (over a decade) and found out his wife left him recently because he got physically abusive with her. 
10 fev 24 por membro: Kimbie86
He wants you to wait till Monday. That's code for, "I have a fun weekend planned and can't be bothered." Let him go. He is only interested in himself. You deserve better treatment. Find a good man at the kind of social events that reflect your interests. On Monday, he'll try to win you back, because he likes the convenience of the relationship. You have the weekend to decide if you want to be treated better the rest of your life. There's a good man out there for you, but he can't find you if you're constantly hanging onto Mr. Cavalier. Stand strong and move on. 
11 fev 24 por membro: jdode
That is not healthy. A healthy relationship they listen and are open to communication. Sometimes you have to look inward and make sure you are happy. If this person makes you miserable whether you love them or not I would move on. I have done it and it is sooo hard but I turned out the be the best thing I ever did. Set your boundaries and say goodbye if they do not meet your expectation. Value your worth and if someone makes you feel less, throw them in the garbage because they are trash.  
11 fev 24 por membro: jcwebb127
sorry. dealt with from the ex. I'm free now and never tolerating that again. prayers. not emotional spiritual or verbal abuse again. I'm worth too much to except that for myself. you are worth better too. 
11 fev 24 por membro: prayerpower95
Communication with your partner is very important. However, it isn't always easy. You have to figure out a style that works with him. Many will get defensive when they feel they are being attacked. Men, especially GenX, were taught to react this way as children. We had to be tough, act like we didn't care, and react harshly to others if we felt like we were being attacked. Trust can be difficult, and showing emotions (other than happiness & anger) can be challenging. If you think he is worth it, work with him. If not, just move on.  
11 fev 24 por membro: TheUnhealthyDaddy
You have to be able to set boundaries that make you comfortable in any relationship without feeling like you are being punished. Sorry you are going through this. Prayers!! Hug!! 
11 fev 24 por membro: StormsGirl
Is this the same guy from a couple years ago that you broke up with? 
11 fev 24 por membro: Fritzy 22
I know easier said than done, time to dump him and go on with your life. Prayers to you👱‍♀️🐈‍⬛ 
11 fev 24 por membro: Maine coon
@JustBananas the challenging part is that the bf is not like that at all, it's my brain projecting the outcome so I don't bring things up until I am superagitated 
11 fev 24 por membro: abbadabba
@Fritzy22 yes it is and I was basically telling him I was not going to break up with him even though he had done something I didn't agree with. 
11 fev 24 por membro: abbadabba
My problem too 💔 
12 fev 24 por membro: alh1094

     
 

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