Jornal de LauSingh, 23 ago 19

Yeah, funny how that works. And the former is worse health-wise.  

No one has the right to judge. Comments should be left in your mouth unless requested. A general "you look good" or "what are you doing differently", I feel are acceptable. A goal should be made to be Healthier not thinner or heavier. 

when I was little my grandmother lived next door. we would come home from school plant ourselves at her dining room table and she would make us beer floats and give us cookies. all I remember is eating that crap and then having to go home and eat dinner.. I've been heavy since I was a little girl. no one ever watch their figure in my house or my grandmother's house. it's amazing we never talked about things like that. I grew up and had to get a whole new set of rules and regulations for myself. I had no idea how to eat healthy. I remember Loving Coca-Cola in the bottle I think I was addicted at a early age. my dad would take us to his company picnics and that's one thing I remember from the picnics. there were always a lot of eating events in our house.. then I learned to turn to food as a comfort item. today I'm practicing self-control. I trust myself a little, I pray a lot, and I require the guidance of my close friends to keep me in line. my life is good today and I wouldn't trade it for all the money in the world 

I don't think either is acceptable 

I was taught that if im pointing my finger at somebody there's four pointing back at me 

I just read my long comment those were root beer floats lol 

I wouldn’t say it’s worse unless you are in a critical state of anorexia. But yes, people feel comfortable with making comments like “eat more” or “get some fat because you look miserable” if you don’t fit into their understanding of being “normal”. 

Being judgmental either way is a twerp move. If you're happy with you, that's all that matters, and don't forget, you've got a mouth and a brain and can easily reciprocate offensive comments.  

Oh please stop. People shut their mouths in most cases as saying that others are fat is specifically not “allowed” nowadays. The “body positivity” movement is real too (something that didn’t exist 30 years ago) and if you say even a word against you are just “a bitch”. Here for instance, sizes were reviewed a couple years ago as the population grew a lot bigger over time. So yeah if you say anything in this direction, you are a fat shamer. But it’s absolutely normal to throw dirty jokes “hey flat stick” or “get a second dessert” without being ashamed. Been there as I grew like this and my nickname was skeleton. Personally, yes, I keep my mouth shut but mainly because I don’t chitchat and feel better by myself. It’s not always the case around me and people do throw dirty comments about being skinny. 

I am always amazed at how many people are scared of change. No good reason for that miserable feeling. I want to reach out and hug them and say....You know me...you know where I've been...come on...you can be healthy too!!!! It is the best way for me...TEAM HUMAN!!!! Being judgemental...has its underpinnings. 

I think making unwanted comments of any kind about someone's body is rude.  

I have a post-it on my bedroom mirror that says "Morbid Obesity". That is the words my doctor noted on my chart 02 Aug. That note is my motivation, now only taken over by nutritional hobby. Good or bad... words hurt, but also motivate. -24 lbs (and no smoking) since then! 

When someone call me : hi fatty . lol that's give me a motivation to change may lifestyle and start to eat a good food lol 

Shame and disgust are negative and harmful emotions but can also fuel positive change. My motivation most recently was shopping with a much heavier friend. This friend is super into the being positive about all bodies movement and very secure with themselves at a morbidly obese weight. More power to my friend. You do you and I love you regardless. But for me, and my personal body, I felt such an acute sense of shame at being in a specialty plus size shop and such disgust at the way even the cutest of clothes can't cover or make fat look good that it lit a fire under my own size 14 ass to stop lazing about on the health and weight thing and to seriously whip myself back it to shape. I resolved on that day that I never wanted to have to ever be plus size or shop plus size ever again. When I was 25 thin and healthy came naturally but at 35 it takes some work to maintain. I have no one to blame for getting where I am but me and no one can get me back to my happy place but me. That work is worth it to me. I don't believe in bullying anyone else or telling them what to do with their body and health choices but I also don't believe in self delusion. When it comes to me and mine to hell with spinning fat positively - it's not positive. I will kick my own ass until fat is not the case.  

Yeah, so sad, people will criticize you no matter what.  

True Dat Keilin_4 After the doctor's the other day, I went to the medical supply place because my bottom belly hangs low after having so many babies. The lady who tried to help me was confused when I asked for something to help "train it back". She gave me a pregnancy girdle which was too small. When I said I needed a bigger size and something with back support that wouldn't roll when I sat, she asked if I had tried spandex and of course I hadn't. She also said kind of whispering, "Have you considered diet and exercise. " I replied as nicely as I could, "Yes ma'am I have, in fact that's why I'm standing here. I've lost some weight and I would like to be more active but I can't do that when I can't stand for 10 seconds without my back wanting to curl up and die." Of course we left without a sale but still days later it bugs me. I wondered out loud to my husband if she did that to customers that were tiring to gain weight and had back problems or stomach problems or was I the oddball that she felt comfortable enough to talk about diet and exercise with me. 

@diana it’s different, sorry to be a bitch. 

I may be off base here- but in my opinion- a lot of people- especially me being obese for my whole life- would consider that a compliment- to say- You're so thin... not the sickly part or whatever but definitely saying to someone- You're so skinny- I always meant it as a compliment and it was hard to fathom someone would be trying to put on weight.  

I take it as a compliment when someone says 'you're looking fit.' I don't feel complimented when someone says I'm skinny or look like I'm putting on weight. We all have our own perception of body image. Nice thought provoker LauSingh You are looking damn fit!  

Sometimes people will tell me: Girl you are too thin, how much do you weight; 80 pounds? D-princess, I don't think that is a compliment. usually obese people will say that. I am not too thin, they are too fat, but I can't say that. 😂🤷‍♀️