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DavidPrincess I don't know if this post will reach you. My account is still broken; it went into the private mode by itself and it does not allow me to interact with others. Delete/install did not resolve the issue. Anyway, I watched a corny British TV drama last night (I have a penchant for corny shows), and there was something I saw which I wanted to share with you. Say I am weary, say I am sad Say that health and wealth have missed me Say I'm growing old But add, Jenny kissed me I replaced the last line with "but add, my brother loved me," selfishly disregarding the rhyme scheme. It has been a few years since I lost my brother. No prayers or words healed me. My brother's suffering still haunts me, I am living without peace of mind, and I am tired. Hearing these simple words on the show last night was the first time I ever felt that my head was resting on someone's shoulder for a few seconds. I hope you will find some words that comfort you one day. They are far and few between.
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ACB, it was weird, wasn’t it? Thank you for checking
06 set 21 por membro: yfritz
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LISfifty, I saw the comment you left for DP. It included the word “resurrection.” I think about the particular miracle often. There is a painting by Caravaggio, “Raising of Lazarus.” Spending time with this painting is exhilarating.
06 set 21 por membro: yfritz
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I'm ok, you guys! I cried this morning. It is strange how a good cry makes it ok for a little bit. It just comes in waves- I think we all know that- we have all experienced the grief. Just out of the blue it just hits you. Thank you for worrying about me. It is a long, tough road but I am going to survive. I have survived a lot of things in my day and I will get through this, too. Thank you for caring about me and my wellness.
06 set 21 por membro: davidsprincess
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yfritz- This line- We bathed them. We taught them how to read, write, ride a bicycle. We saw them grow, eventually getting taller than us. A bond between siblings is indescribably special. Nothing truer. Immediately it flashed to me teaching him how to spell eight and comparing it to ate. So many memories- some precious and others not so much as he changed before my eyes into someone I didn't know and then he would be his old self again and then stupid again from drugs and then clean and then not. Back and forth, back and forth- I hold all the memories dear and try not to have regrets for needing to distance myself from him sometimes. I don't need to go into a bunch of detail. It is neither here nor there- but that description- nothing says it better... and i miss him. And I wish I had him even in the times he was an ass.
06 set 21 por membro: davidsprincess
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YF, thinking of you with love 🙏🏽💗💞💞🙏🏽
06 set 21 por membro: Daughter of the_King
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Furthermore- I looked at what you said about cremation and things in Japan and it is no wonder- Oh my goodness. I had no idea. 😕
06 set 21 por membro: davidsprincess
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I love that picture. I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother. I'm glad a little ditty gave you some joy, and rhyme scheme be damned!
06 set 21 por membro: liz-andra
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DP, glad you are doing “so-so” today…🤣 One day at a time, right? But please know, you don’t have to be “okay” for the sake of reassuring us. That pressure could be insidious and ominous.
I love the story about “eight vs ate.” Did he keep forgetting “h”? I can see his tiny hand holding a pencil! Thank you for sharing that.
About regrets - I have tons of regrets. Like, I should have been kinder to him. When I first saw my brother’s lifeless body I kept screaming “I’m sorry, I’m sorry, I’m sorry.” I think he got a kick out of that, so it’s ok. Maybe it’s too soon for you, but the day will come when you will welcome even regrets, because regret is still a form of love.
06 set 21 por membro: yfritz
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Ette thanks. Isn’t my brother cute? Sometimes I get my son and my brother mixed up.
06 set 21 por membro: yfritz
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Yfritz, I know about as much about how DP is doing as you do (from her latest post). I think she is very sad. Unfortunately, I am not the best when it comes to grief and illness. It makes me feel very bad and I worry about not saying trite/clumsy/all-is-for-the-best-in-the-best-of-all-possible-worlds stuff, so I end up saying very little so I am not the best person to rely on for comfort.
06 set 21 por membro: LaughingChevre
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Liz… rhyme scheme is gravely important and I’m infinitely uncomfortable about breaking it🤣 How are you? Did you get my message? My account was messed up and it was blank on the website.
06 set 21 por membro: yfritz
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Chèvre, sorry I thought you two were close friends… seems that way. I do think online friendship is as valuable as real life friendship. Actually, I didn’t get much comfort from my real life friends because they kept interrupting me to tell their own stories!!🤣🤣 I don’t think DP is expecting us to say anything, your presence is good enough, no? It’s really not about what you say, you know. The fact I thought you two were very close says a lot about how much you care about each other. It shows. I apologize if you thought I was pressuring you into doing something extraordinary. That was not my intention.
06 set 21 por membro: yfritz
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I never comfort people well- and when other people cry- I end up crying. :) What can you say to someone? Sorry for your loss- it seems silly but I say it all the time to people and I mean it very deeply. 😉
06 set 21 por membro: davidsprincess
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No, no, no, Yfritz, you weren't pressuring me to say anything. I just admire that you managed to make a heartfelt and comforting post with DP in mind without resorting to trite condolences. Some people are good at it, others not so much.
06 set 21 por membro: LaughingChevre
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"I didn't get much comfort from my real life friends because they kept interrupting me to tell their own stories!!" - this is something I have heard many people say and one of the dangers of trying to say too much when someone is going through a loss like this. People start telling their own stories either because they think it's comforting to "relate" in grief or they want to give advice and say it's all going to be fine, and it can often end up not being useful, reassuring or helpful at all.
06 set 21 por membro: LaughingChevre
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DP, I mean it too, but I'm often thinking, well, what else is there to say? It's obviously terrible, it's obviously horrible, what good is saying it.
06 set 21 por membro: LaughingChevre
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All I can say Yfritz is 😢😢😢😢 and ❤️❤️❤️❤️!!!!
06 set 21 por membro: Shrewdness
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DP, you don’t know this but you always show up at a perfect moment. And that’s how I remember you. Words are not as important as your presence. When you posted your weight (500 lbs), I laughed so hard and my day went ok somehow. My point is, thank you for being you.
06 set 21 por membro: yfritz
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Chèvre, to be honest I still get very angry when people use someone’s misfortune as their opportunity to tell their account in detail. Or shove bible verses in my face. Funny thing is, you just allowed me to express this particular resentment I held for a long time, and now I feel like I could forgive them. After all they meant well… maybe I’ll give one of them a call today. Thank you. See? You are good at this🤣🤣
06 set 21 por membro: yfritz
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Mrs Shrewd, how’s your husband? Is he feeling better??
06 set 21 por membro: yfritz
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